Hi, thanks for checking our profile. We know some people don't read profiles of more than a few lines, so here is the bullet point version especially for them :-) - We are meeting only couples at present, no singles, please. - Not looking for shag-and-run, we like the social aspect too. - Non-smokers only please. - We aren't after slim and beautiful, but aren't attracted to the very large - no offence meant. - No 'full-swap only' couples, we don't commit to that in advance. Now, the more comprehensive version... We are T (female) and A (male), a married couple who enjoy the occasional dip into the swinging lifestyle. We are looking to meet couples rather than singles - apologies to the many single men out there, but we have done our experimenting and we know what works for us. That's the end of it, it really won't make any difference if you look like Tom Cruise and are hung like a donkey. When we say couples we don't mean two singles who swing together as we've found the social side of swinging works best with people in an established relationship. It's hard work trying to have normal, everyday conversations about holidays, hobbies, s/pets etc, only to find the other couple know bugger all about each other and keep forgetting each other's names. T has a petite figure and looks after herself nicely, though I'm afraid big bouncy boob lovers will be disappointed. A, on the other hand, looks like a donkey and is hung like Tom Cruise. You will find us friendly and approachable, articulate and well-travelled, educated and intelligent. We also have a good sense of humour, but then everybody claims to have that, and tastes differ. Our own humour leans towards some wit and gentle sarcasm, you probably wouldn't find us good company if you think the pinnacle of humour is to be found in farting. A is straight while T is bi. T enjoys reciprocation, so prefers women who aren't simply doing it for their partner's enjoyment. Inexperience is fine, but you should be at least genuinely curious. T is a sensual rather than aggressive bi, preferring stroking, kissing and oral to wildly pumping fists and scary strap-ons. A, on the other hand, doesn't have a bi bone in his body, and doesn't want somebody else's bi bone in his body either. That said, we aren't put off by couples with bi men, and have no problem meeting such couples as long as the man is happy to play straight. Because of T's preferences we do prefer meeting couples with a bi female. We meet on weekends rather than during the week, and we would expect a meeting take up a whole evening - that doesn't mean we are sexual athletes who will carry on all night, it means that a social element is important too. We are happy to play on a first meeting if we all agree, but we do like to get to know people before we play with them. When it comes to looks, we aren't attracted to the largest body shapes, but nor are we looking for beautiful people. In fact, if your profile says something like "we are a very attractive, fit and sexy couple looking for the same" then please keep looking, we don't want to be anybody's 'fat friend'. Regarding friend requests - we add as 'friends' only those people whom we are likely to meet. We aren't meaning to be rude by declining random friend requests, but this isn't Facebook.

My Ideal Person As for what we are actually looking for - we are simply looking for people who match most of our criteria. If you do not, there probably isn't much point talking about a meeting, and will say 'thanks, but no thanks' up front - that doesn't mean we think you aren't 'good enough' for us, but we do think a meeting should be based on more than having compatible body parts. So, here goes...

-- An ideal meeting for us is a social evening with good sex involved. We never meet just for the sex - no quickies, no dogging.
-- We are non-smokers - we DO NOT dislike smokers, nor think they should be shot, deported, or water-boarded until they quit. We don't turn our noses up and refuse to speak to, or socialise with, those who exercise their right to smoke. However we don't meet smokers in a swinging context, purely because experience has shown us that it doesn't work for us when playing. This is due to our dislike of the smell of smoke, not a dislike of the smoker, and is a practical decision rather than some sort of moral statement. We are sorry if it offends anyone - that isn't the intention.
-- Full swap - we can take it or leave it, but prefer to leave it. Bareback is completely out, but condoms spoil the fun in our book. If you are a couple for whom full swap is a must then you shouldn't be interested in us, as chances are it won't happen.
-- We aren't much excited by 'girl on girl and play with your own partner' meetings, but we are happy to meet soft swing couples who prefer to play at the more interactive end of the 'soft' spectrum.
-- Swinging is an important hobby to us, but not important enough to travel far to meet up. We prefer to accommodate, but don't expect people to want to travel far to us either, hence we prefer local couples. (We don't do 'half way' hotel meetings, and clubs and parties only very occasionally.)
-- We have a healthy sex life, but it isn't all-consuming, and we aren't always horny. We aren't shy and we don't lack confidence, but have nothing to prove - we have no need to try rolling in lard or screwing a badger just to show how down and dirty we can get. We prefer couples who aren't obsessed with pushing boundaries and who don't see this as a competitive sport.

Well, that's about it. Well done, if you got this far without falling asleep you know what sort of people we are. The rest is up to you...

v7.7

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
'Pop' music is drivel, I don't waste my time
on it

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography

Have you ever had cybersex?:
No way. I only want skin on skin.

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