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Makin a list...
Posted:Nov 15, 2015 9:22 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2019 11:12 am

And checkin it twice
Goin to try to keep everything nice
List of blogs, thoughts, pondering, wishing, and daily fun...

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On sex The kind of fg I need __ Sexy sounds he makes -- SomedaysConstant state of arousal -- Intimacy and the moment __ What kind of style __searching forThe other side to casual fwbs

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Alternative thinkin are you kink friendly update2016 __ Just a view into my kinks
Kinky search, for me and for you __The list __ My kinks bondage
Orgasm study__ Orgasm study__Kinky mind for me

My searches: not currently looking for anyone new.

Tongue Goes in First tonight__Squirty needs towels__Flirty Friday __Sinday morning and The list
another day done__Finding your MOJO
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Finally Friday__ Just another day in paradise __ Saturday free time
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Posted:Jun 24, 2019 11:43 am
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2019 3:13 pm

It's funny, but I really don't understand why he stays in a sexless relationship. Lol

Enjoy the day
Bacon n coffee in the badlands
Posted:Jun 22, 2019 10:25 am
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2019 3:33 pm
The kink party is tonight and I had to find something different to wear, plus light enough for summer.

I just go to socialize with people from the other cities and to watch some scenes.
Funny how i have a 28" waist but bigger in photos.

I do wish I more attention in sewing because finding a skirt or shirt will work for my corsets is kinda tough in a small town. Buying clothes online is tough because of fit and being a rectangular shape with a short waist (I make up for it with long legs). Lol
One of these days I will try my hand sewing because I like a certain fit of summer dress and it seems to be a simple enough pattern. 😁

Anyhoo, I better get around getting something done, like pack my stuff for the night. Lol
Where to now?
Posted:Jun 19, 2019 5:51 pm
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2019 3:31 pm

So I've been busy with life and bored of online lately, but today I tried to sign up for harmony... just like how all yous'guys harp on when I stated I wanted an ongoing thing.

Anyway, let's just say that I can't even sign up for the site because I'm non religious, not caucasian, not fit, and struggled answering the narrow monogamous questions. They locked my profile before I could finish the sign up process, guess my dollars where not green enough (or colorful enough bec Canadian $ is colorful. Lol.) or my answers where not good enough.

So where to now?
My ten year search for kink friendly and sex positive men that are open to dating or ongoing (age dependent) has finally hit rock bottom.
I have found maybe 3 men in those ten years that where open to at least trying new positions in bed, though I have never met another kinkster or someone open to some group sex on occasion (even as fwb,) or adventurous enough to try new things like outdoor sex, or at least hiking. Someone that is passionate, authentically sexual, ...

I have no interest in being used as a fetish delivery per or a cum dump like how many of you treat the women on here; I'm looking for the soulful sex, fun open exciting conversations, have that trust to go explore and sexplore, finally be allowed to enjoy sex and to be my authenic sexual self. To enjoy someone's company, explore lifes alternative interests.....

Sexy bloggers,
Any other bright ideas on where search for men?

I'm at a loss.
Fine! I'll go camping
Posted:Jun 14, 2019 8:34 am
Last Updated:Jun 17, 2019 6:53 am

But I shouldn't point fingers, we have a cabin on a semi private lake. Lol

Enjoy your weekend and your hot dates
Boots to dresses
Posted:Jun 13, 2019 1:31 pm
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2019 6:51 am
Steel toe boots that is.

I spend all week in my boots, some weekends too pending whats going on at the ranch. So when I have a chance to shave and toss a dress on I will take full advantage of it. Yes i know dresses aren't for everyone and I dont expect men to clean up for a date.

But I like dresses! Or skirts with a nice top!

Where I live it doesn't lend well for dressing up, so I have started the 'dinner date' nights with the kinksters. Where I find a nice restaurant we can meet at and spend an evening with good food n drink and not have to worry about finding an inexpensive place that suits every ones budget.

With this hectic month past, I can now plan the 5 course paired with drinks meal! Semi formal evening that will be arranged by a dinner in advance.
Then I will 2 other establishments in the area to see if they are mainly casual dress places or if they offer formal dining.

Either way looking to trade in my steel toes, long sleeves and -vis for a form fitting dress and good food.

Don't worry, I dont ever ask any new dates if they are interested in a good restaurant. They get a parking lot meet up or coffee shop, so they don't have to worry about anything.
Hence why I started the dinner date nights for those that want a change of pace.

In case you didn't catch it, , want my boots off, i want to relax with some good food and enjoy the freedom of a summer dress.
Patio weather!
Posted:Jun 12, 2019 7:23 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2019 1:04 pm
Some days it would be nice if sex, good sex, was as simple as this:

Multiple cock and orgasms sound fun though! I guess my thinkin has been sidetracked because there are a few clubs hosting summer sex parties in the next few months...

At least at a sex party where guy fails or isn't interested there will more willing at least try.. And if I use my imagination just right I can roll up all the mediocre humping they will be doing into a fine fantasy (believe me on this . ).

I have definitely thought of hosting a sex party here in the Thomp okanagan but I have a sneaky feeling that it would be mainly women showing up. Lol!
The amount of vetting especially for the men becomes almost a part time job with a flake , been there done that but its a fun idea.

Anyway, happy humpday

(Lord help me with the deleted words!!)
Humpday'ish coming up
Posted:Jun 11, 2019 6:17 pm
Last Updated:Jun 13, 2019 11:52 am
So random question of the day, or is that questions, or just ponderings..

Do you make your partners beg for sex from you?
Are they in such a big holding pattern that its a few weeks or months between visits, so you make them chase you for whatever little bit of sex you toss thier way?

Women are a dime a dozen, so do you make it known to them they are just another on the list?

In a relationship beyond fuck buddies, do you withhold sex from her just push her buttons, or for negative reinforcement for her wanting too much sex?

Curious about it because I've had my share of monogamous partners withhold sex and intimacy because I wanted it more than them

Question on a monday...
Posted:Jun 10, 2019 5:56 pm
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2019 10:01 pm
Not a sinday post, but one that has crossed my page a few times including in a few of the books I'm reading and on a few articles or blogs, and in my kink discussion groups:

What does 'bad sex' mean to you in terms of Your experience?
Can you define why it was bad?

Super interested in peral experiences and stories (helps me in not feeling like I'm the only one) plus I just like to see the varying views!

One that was particularly meh felt like he should have just left money on the dresser. He did everything he needed to do to orgasm and really didn't touch me besides his cock in my hole ...it was just a weirdly awkward experience and one that tipped the scale in favor of losing interest in casual sex. Obviously there are some really bad dates and some even more meh, but I'm not in the mood for a long story.

Anyhoo, I'm looking forward to some different views!
Posted:Jun 8, 2019 8:29 pm
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2019 1:08 pm
Our internet will be down till tuesdayish so I have to drive to the nearest cell tower just to get some distraction in.

Its stormy, some lightning, some rain, some sun, but managed to get some yard work done and some gardening..ie: weeding. Lol

A brisk storm coming through this morning sent me inside for a wee bit,

just enough to rub one out.
Grungy garden clothes en'all.
My hands where washed though, cos yanno garden gloves only keep so much dirt off.

I am workin on not fantasizing about men, but gawd darn it I ended up thinkin about someones hard cock and sexy hands.
Then I started to think on my ex-casuals manfur and thick cock...
So much for learning to just clear my mind and masturbate for my own pleasure. Lol

Its been since dec twenty-nine for my last good all night of fuckin that finally satiated my sexual hunger, well, for the day. .
Yikes! I know right?! I just thought of that on my drive here to check my messages.

And my ladybits are horny today, I will have a ladyboner tonight, and I will wake up with ladywood in the mornin.
Now where are those men open to ongoing.

Enjoy your evening
Finally Friday
Posted:Jun 7, 2019 2:15 pm
Last Updated:Jun 8, 2019 8:14 pm
When you are soo horny that the seem in your jeans is distracting,
it does make for a long day though.

Life has been so hectic lately that I have not had time for a long sensual jill session. Blue bean is real folks!
At most I have been able to rub one out a couple of times over the last 6 weeks.

But ya we can't all be so lucky to find hot dates and reliable partners for when you really really need that extra hand, or tongue, or hard cock filling my mouth...

But in the meantime I will be able to get my hike in, or maybe fishing. Need some distraction from my horniness.
I may stop for dinner with the kinksters, but depends if I am still in town or not by 630pm (kinda one of those times where its nice to have a DOC (dic on call) then I can easily burn a few hours sexing it up!)
Ya ya I know, men don't like to be used for sex just as much as women don't, I get it.
But I will have to look at harmony this weekend and decide on a super vanilla profile. Maybe I can find a sex positive, sexually active, kink friendly single man on there.... yes I know you have to be conventionally attractive to have vanilla profiles, but that site doesn't allow for much info on it anyway. Besides I want to find someone that sees me as a whole per and not just as a random hole to fill.

Enjoy your hot dates this weekend!
Need a new ad
Posted:Jun 6, 2019 6:26 pm
Last Updated:Jun 7, 2019 10:17 pm

Something that I do to time is to read ads in localish groups, mainly on the kink site but sometimes on here and on the dating sites.

Some days I really want to message those profiles and ask if they received any responses, I want to know about all responses and not just the failure to attract 21 yr old cheerleader. Lol
I have posted all sorts of ads throughout the last years of searching for kink friendly and sex positive men, barely ever receiving a response 'cept maybe one or two from guys that really didn't read the ad or my profile. But then it doesn't surprise me because half native living in the interior of BC, there is no line up of men willing to meet in public.
Which is another rea why I don't believe all the hype around women having full inboxes, maybe the skinny caucasian women 30 get those sausage fests.

Where was I
Oh ya, ads!
I have responded to a few of the fuckboy ads on this site, but was met with much disappointment. Apparently I wasn't the target female audience for his 'any vagina will do', or I would have to send a bunch of photos to prove myself?!
Or they guy that would be super eager to meet but first send photos! Only to discover he is only looking for online play.
Of the guys that want to play on cam so i can prove my hotness, only to discover hd has no intention of meeting in real life.
So I stopped trying on this site, apparently a woman open to meetkng for nsa sex is too easy so not worth the effort.
And the few that did meet, and the very few that I tried to have sex with all completely bombed. Apparently he needs to see you as a whole n real per before he will put effort into the sex. 🙄

I have responded to ads on the kink site, more to clarify his age or race preferences. Most times he was looking for someone waaay than , or a whole lot thinner. So I stopped bothering replying to ads.

But anyway,
My ads have never netted any potential partners nor has anything I ever wrote, wore, or not worn...
Have you ever had luck with your ads seeking dating/sex/kink?
Do your profiles on dating sites bring the people in like flies to honey?

Just curious because my ads never gain any traction, but then hosting meet n greet grouos don't either.

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